Passive expression is a repressed emotion seeking to deliver a message through indirect communication, either beautifully sent in a creative and artistic method or in a toxic and unhealthy manner. Passive aggression is an indirect form of communication that invokes anger in another through trivial behaviours that one displays, knowing it will urk the other to witness the anger inside arise in another, relieving one from taking accountability for their own emotions and avoiding reflecting on hurt and understanding it to heal it and release it responsibly and sensibly. Passive aggression is invoked by any emotion not linked to true unconditional love, deriving from emotions of sadness that permit anger, jealousy that spiral into envy, and conditional love that permeates hate.
  Passivity, becoming a habitual way of expression, oozes down to sending passive apologies and inhabits a customary way of communication that inflicts harm on relationships, prevents connection, and relinquishes bonds. To send a passive apology is to hide behind giving gestures, masking the elephant in the room, which is a repressed emotion not given permission to be released. It is the allowance that defends the passive aggressor from the harm caused by them that they will not recognise and take accountability for directly. However, in need of relieving the guilt felt from the deep knowing of gaslighting behaviour that accompanies passive aggression.
  Indirect communication does not have to be passive; it can be indirectly direct, an example of paralogical thinking essential in a paradoxical world. Sending or playing a song for someone with meaningful lyrics expressing one’s emotions is a form of indirect communication that is not passive. Indirect communication can take many forms, including unhealthy, unjust displays consisting of gossip and backbiting that, despite being unintentional with impulsivity of emotional release, deliver an indirect message through another by allowing one to consume emotions held from another that control their behaviour towards them, providing the expression of another to them leaving the target unaware of why a random person is treating them like they have done something to them when in fact they are reacting to what they heard of them behind their back.            

 

Passive aggression is the cowardly expression of any repressed emotion disconnected from the true unconditional love that consists of forgiveness that is healing gained from the initiative to understand that is motivated by love, gratitude that is appreciation emanating love, and the courage to express one’s feelings truthfully to create space for healing and better understanding that seeks love.
  Repressed emotions disconnected from true love that dictate conditional love, such as sadness, anger, and jealousy, cultivate unhealed hurt that is repressed and harboured within the body and behaves passively aggressively. Emotions are balls of energy the body instinctively seeks to release due to the space the energy occupies inside that deteriorates the mind, body, and soul by utilising their supply. Clouding the mind with illusionary stories to justify the relevance of the hurt residing inside, occupying space within the body, exhausting vitality needed to mobilise effectively and efficiently, and imprisoning the soul by the confusion that grows from abstaining from expressing emotions through the communication of thoughts linked to the emotion that prolongs hearing the opposing position that gains clarity and objectively heals, that inevitably lacks awareness needed to recognise the soul.            
  When emotions unlinked to unconditional love become repressed, they originate the passive-aggressive expression, which is a subconscious motive to disturb the targeted punching bag perceived as the reason for their pain. A punching bag characterises an empath who the aggressor assesses to be vulnerable, assumed to be weaker and focused on being the punching bag for their release of emotional repression. Empaths become targeted due to their innate ability to feel other people, which a passive aggressor requires to release their emotions through, denying their human bodily channel from producing the release that accounts for identifying their feelings.
  Passive aggression subjugates others to shamefully express repressed anger from the passive aggressor, deeming them the angry rival. When, in fact, the passive aggressor subconsciously behaves in a manner that secretly aspires to witness the anger felt within another to simmer their anger, not realising they are releasing their anger through another with the inability to release it through their unique channel, their human bodily expression. Pushing buttons relieves their anger and awaits its rise within their target.

 

A passive apology presents through actions that stem from the guilt, which is a shame, not repentant, transformed into self-defence. To prove one is not what the other describes them to be or defend the self from the perceived attack is merely an expression of another's feelings towards them. An unapologetic action intending to manipulate an apology has the undertone of self-defence and does not deliver an apology. An apology is a verbal deliverance of understanding how one made another feel. It provides a supreme understanding of the situation at hand objectively by hearing both sides agree with shared accountability and sincere apology for the part they played in the conflict.
  Suppose verbal communication is too restricting due to the barrier of disconnection. In that case, another expression of a direct apology is delivering a letter or flowers intending to heal, anything delivered directly that resonates with providing a sincere understanding of one's behaviour that one is apologising for. Passive apologies are conditional in their deliverance, with the expectation one will overlook the need for better understanding that a direct apology delivers because of a gesture made that stems from self-defence that opposes healing and boils grudges restraining the relational tie and weakening the bond, permeating conditional love.
  A passive apology stemming from the authentic intention of sincere repentance develops into actions that create permanent healing from the situation instead of temporary relief and superficial surface-level release. Surface-level relief is comforting emotions without the supreme understanding that releases them, requiring objective comprehension that promotes forgiveness.
  Passive aggression opens the floodgate for passive apologies, relieving guilt that inevitably generates gaslighting that forms an illusional reality, confusing the target to self-doubt their accusations and retrieve submissively to the perpetrator that defines as abuse and begins the cycle of the control of a narrative that suits the abuser and causes the target to become a victim of oppression.    
  Gaslighting is the act of passive blame through the psychological tactic in which the perpetrator effectively ensures the guilt felt within escapes and is released through the target. They are causing the victim to apologise to the abuser unknowingly for something the abuser caused, unjustly demoralising the victim. A passive apology masks the agenda to redirect blame to victimise the abuser, tricking the target into self-doubt and assuming they are the abuser.

 

The conquest to creatively deliver one's expression indirectly can be healthy and artistic through music, flowers, or an art piece. Indirect communication can be destructively unhealthy to relationships when gossip is involved. Backbiting and saying things about another intended to be hidden from them and displaying the opposite expression at face value is the subconscious exercise that assists one with delivering their emotions to the targeted person through other people's interactions with them, ensuring other people carry the emotion expressed to them and provide the message for them indirectly or directly through another. Leaving the targeted person confused and unaware of why they are receiving odd treatments from people they either barely know or have done nothing to. They are subjugating people under the influence of a foreign emotion irrelevant to their existence.
  Repressed emotions unlinked to unconditional love initiate passive aggression, although repressed emotions linked to unconditional love can create beautifully creative expressions that can assist another in recognising love. Passive actions related to unconditional love include a thoughtful gift, consistent changed behaviour proving one's recognition of the pain they caused, displaying their repentance, and damage control that permanently remits the damage they caused.     

 

In short, passive expression has opposing displays in an unhealthy and healthy manner depending on the intention, whether from unconditional or conditional love. Unconditional love delivers sincere action, and conditional love provides passive aggression. Sincere action, depending on the delivery of the message, entails a creative way to express love, being a passive apology that shows one's genuine repentance that transforms behaviour to send the display of understanding where one hurt another and attempts to convert the comprehension to healing, or the artistic expression of love that demonstrates the love one feels for another, displaying authenticity of their true nature that may be shy. Conditional love, on the other hand, permits passive aggression, which is repressed emotions disconnected from unconditional love, such as sadness that harbours anger, deriving from hurt which turns into a grudging and confused misunderstanding, weakening the mind that projects the cowardly expression of passive aggression, stemming from the oppressed way love is shared.
  Passive aggression becoming a customary behaviour leads to an overwhelming feeling of guilt due to the unjustly performed, instigating the target to express the angry emotion that finds relief through them that accusers the victim of being the attacker. Confusing the victim calculatingly targeted due to their empathic abilities tends to confuse people's emotions for their own, which can mask the aggressor swiftly. Therefore, to relieve the guilt for knowing their canning behaviour, they must swiftly apologise without apologising, which encourages self-defence. A passive apology deriving from self-defence is a temporary comforting relief to their target that displays they are not what the victim perceives them to be. This behaviour again subjugates the victim to feel emotions that are not theirs, that is, the guilt felt by the aggressor, now expressed through the target who begins to self-doubt their accusations because of temporary actions displayed by the aggressor showing an opposing narrative of what the victim accused them of. Confusing the target and weakening their trust with their mind and assessments that question their sanity and abilities to accurately assess others' behaviours, causing them to submit to their abuser mindlessly.      
  Passive expression beautifully done through indirect communication can be more meaningful without words, connecting with a more profound style of communication or toxic provision through indirect statements and backbiting that gossips and hides the truth of their feelings, causing people to adopt their emotions that form their beliefs of someone through word of mouth that eliminates the chance for the target to prove who they are with biased opinions flying in the air.    

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Deena M.